Blind dating tips men
While it's unlikely you'll find someone who meets all of your requirements, you do need someone who passes your must-haves.
So if things like tall, successful, and great dresser really matter to you, put 'em on your list.
"Often, friends or family will just fix up two people because they're both young and single, without really taking into account whether they're compatible," says psychologist Edward A. "In order to be successfully matched up on a blind date, you have to take steps that will ensure you're only going out with people who actually have potential." Cribbing these tips will help: Be Clear About Your Specific Criteria "You have to guide matchmakers when they're trying to come up with someone you might like," says Dreyfus.
For example, a man who invites a group of friends over every Tuesday night for dinner and screenings is clearly very social and into entertaining.
If you decide that a dude isn't dateable, it's okay to turn down the offer. Instead of saying "Nah, not for me," which may insult your matchmaker and put an end to any future setups, say something like "He sounds amazing, but I'm not sure I'm right for someone who just got out of a relationship/studies molecular biology/doesn't exercise at all.
But keep me in mind if you think of someone else who might be more my type." That way, it'll be clear that you're weighing potential compatibility and not just slamming the guy.
So screen out any no-gos by posing a few questions about the guy to your matchmaker.
First off, is he actually looking to pursue a relationship or is he into playing the field?