There are a number of things about you that might make people take a step back. Your unique personality may be intimidating people.Having an intimidating personality has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with how people perceive you.I statements typically keep intimidating individuals from moving to the defensive and trying to be even more assertive.At the same time, firmness within truthful I statements tells the intimidating person that you have strength of your own.While being someone people can count on should be a good thing, many people are intimidated by the idea that you do what you said you would do.
Standing proud and tall communicates to the intimidating person that you can't be pushed around, that you're sure of yourself. As social psychologist Amy Cuddy discusses in her well-received Ted Talk, good posture actually can the feelings of confidence you hope to portray. Science has proven that there are "mirror neurons" in the brain that respond to elements like facial expression and contribute to empathy, so if you adopt an approachable demeanor, you can get back what you give.The feeling of intimidation can make you mentally choke, leaving you at a loss for words that makes you feel even worse.You don't have to come up with a script you'll repeat word for word, especially because you have to respond naturally to whatever the other person says back.Mix your I statements with frequent validations of what they're saying.Most people just want to be heard and will relax if they know you're valuing their thoughts.